Why Boundaries and Discipline are Important in Self-Care and Self-Improvement
Most of us live our lives so fast that we never stop to realize that our regular situations and choices may be hindering our growth. Establishing boundaries and disciplining oneself allows for a reestablishment of ones lifestyles. Boundaries and discipline are central to any lifestyle. We all need a little reminder to take control of our lives. Part of taking control comes from making the decisions that benefit you. This is not a selfish act. This is an act of self-love and self-care.
You can begin to identify which areas of your life need boundaries by observing where your energies are being overexerted.
Throughout my studies and practice I have met so many people who are overwhelmed by mental stress. These people try very hard to find outlets for, and relief from their stress. The one thing they fail to incorporate are limits to their abilities. Instead of trying to eliminate the causes of stress in their lives, they go to yoga classes, acupuncture, or get a massage. These alternative modalities are excellent stress relievers but they have little effect on long-term prevention. Boundaries are your long term-prevention.
Setting boundaries for your mind is similar to the gas tank in your car. It only can only take so much before it starts rejecting more.
TIP: Make a list of everything you spend a substantial time thinking about. Assess whether it is worth your brainpower. If not, train yourself to avoid going to that place in your mind. Do not view this as a bad thought but rather an unnecessary distraction. Meditation can help with this.
Take control of your emotions by setting boundaries.
Emotional boundaries are set when you decide you do not want to continue experiencing a particular feeling, whether it be anger, frustration, or sadness, etc. Life in general can impact emotions, but so can many other things.
I would like to bring attention to emotional boundaries and relationships. Whether it be familial relations, friendships, or romantic situations, each circumstance can invoke certain emotions within. If you identify which relationships require an overwhelming amount of your energy and you don't like it, it's time to set boundaries.
These are often the most difficult boundaries to establish because it requires you to be selfish when you have been used to being selfless. Boundaries in relationships allow you to take control of yourself and the situations you get yourself into. If you do not like the way things have been going, make the change. Not all relationships are healthy and not all "friends" mean well. Trust yourself.
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Everyday, millions of Americans work out. Some run, some weight train, some do zumba, some swim, some bike. Regardless of the exercise, they all require a certain amount of physical energy and exertion. Many of these individuals are not properly preparing themselves for these activities and fail to recognize when to limit themselves. I see this everyday as people are so consumed with their daily routine that they never give their bodies time to rest and re-energize. This becomes more problematic if there are nutritional deficiencies, sleep issues, and general health issues. In that case, there is less energy available to complete even the simplest of tasks. The body has been pushed too far and has nothing to feed off of.
Setting physical boundaries allows the body to relax and take time off while preventing energy depletion.
To first begin establishing physical boundaries it is important to spend time observing how you feel before, after, and during physical activity. If you go into the activity tired and come out tired, you need asses where your fatigue is coming from. It is understandable if you are tired at first, but if you are struggling as time goes on you need to reassess if this is the best plan for you. If not you need to try something different.
Know when your body has had enough and discipline yourself to not let it get past that point.
There are many ways in which you can set boundaries professionally. The professional boundary I think is most important for myself is time management. This goes beyond making sure things are done. Setting professional boundaries means learning to detach from the norm and trying new things.
For those who have been at the same job for many years, you may find that there is a consistency to your daily work routine. This is not necessarily a bad thing but it does suggest that you are comfortable in the normalcy of your situation. These norms make it very difficult to break out of what you've become comfortable doing all along and often times force you to stay doing what you've been doing.
Many of us, especially those who work online, need to learn when to disconnect from professional life and truly enjoy personal life.
Tip: Put your phone on airplane mode. You will not be able to use internet or receive calls, but that's the point. Airplane mode helps you disconnect from your professional life when you need a little escape from it all. If you feel that you need a real escape, set boundaries so that you can make time for yourself. Say no to that overtime work. Tell your co-worker you can't cover their shift. Ask for time off.
We become so consumed with the normal daily routine that we fail to incorporate meaningful change until it is too late. When this change does come it is drastic and temporary. This is where discipline comes in. Having discipline through the journey will help you keep an unbiased balance.
Incorporating discipline into your life is not a bad thing. It is a self-improvement and self-care technique that will help you regain control of what you truly want for yourself. Do not discipline yourself with punishment. Remember this is a continual journey.
The Roman Goddess Disciplina whose motto was "Frugalitas, Severitas, Videlis" was worshipped by Roman Soldiers. They turned to her to remain frugal, stern, and faithful while in combat. I suggest turning to Disciplina when setting boundaries and sticking by them.
Disciplina would help soldiers remain frugal with their money, energy, and actions; stern in their focus, determination, and decisiveness; and faithful to more than just themselves.
I am safe. I am secure. I am comfortable. I feel deeply rooted. I am connected to my body. I feel safe and secure. Just like a tree or a star, I have a right to be here. I stand for my values, for truth, and for justice. I have what I need. I am grounded, stable, and standing on my own two feet. I nurture my body with healthy food, clean water, exercise, relaxation, and connection with nature. I am open to possibilities. I am grateful for all the challenges that helped me to grow and transform. I trust in the goodness of life. I make choice that are healthy and good for me. I trust myself. I love life.
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